Bed wetting does not only affect a child physically but psychologically as well. It often puts social limitations on a child’s behavior, affects a child’s self-esteem that is in its developmental stages and can cause teasing and ridicule, both from other children as well as adults. Bed wetting often carries with it a social stigma that can hurt a child greatly.
Children who wet their beds often feel helpless and sometimes their parents struggle with this problem as well in relation to their child. Parents often feel helpless to completely keep their children at ease about bed wetting. Many children live in fear that their friends and peers will discover their bed wetting and will then tease and ostracize them from the group. They fear having no friends and always being left out. No one wants to be the only child standing alone on the playground and no one wants to be called names or laughed at.
A child’s sense of self is shaky at best when they are developing and enuresis can complicate the matter tremendously. All children want to be accepted by their peers and to have lots of friends to play with and have fun with. Being a part of the larger whole helps children grow in a happy and healthy way. All parents want this for their children, whether they wet the bed at night or not. Studies have shown that a great deal of child who fall victim to bullying are children who suffer from enuresis.
Parents in turn often avoid the situation dismissing it as uncomfortable and embarrassing while they hope it will go away on its own while other times they berate and punish their child for behavior that the child cannot control. Neither response is a good one. As well parents often give into frustration over constantly having to change a child’s wet bedding and pajamas and may not want to do laundry as often as they need to in order to keep up with the problem. Many parents feel as though the bed wetting is a consequence of their poor parenting skills and they believe they are a failure because the child won’t stop wetting his or her bed. This feeling of failure is often felt by the child as well who then feels it even more strongly when it is magnified through a parent. Coupled with feelings of shame, confusion and anxiety the situation often gets worse instead of better until treatment is undertaken. Unfortunately in the general population there is a lot of misinformation and downright ignorance regarding bed wetting and this can cause even more stress and anxiety on both the parent and the child.
Parents should be assured that bed wetting is extremely common in children and they should schedule a visit for their child to see a doctor in order to discuss treatment options. If a child is particularly concerned with the negative social aspects of bed wetting the doctor can make suggestions in that area as well. The most successive bed wetting treatments are aimed at not just fixing the physical problem but repairing the social side of things as well.